Barbara M. Rehder, 93

On November 6, 2020, we lost the most amazing mother, grandmother, and friend. Barbara M. Rehder was called to Heaven by her Lord and Savior—she was 93. Barbara was born September 27, 1927, to Joe and Anna (Schaff) Koepl in Nezperce, Idaho. She was the oldest of three children.

Barbara grew up on the family homestead, seven miles west of Nezperce, Idaho. She earned a scholarship to St. Gertrude’s Academy where she attended for one year and then graduated from Nezperce High School in 1945. Barbara’s high school years were all during World War II.

Barbara married Lee Rehder in Nezperce on June 21, 1949. They lived on the “home place” at the base of Cottonwood Butte where they started a dairy, raised beef and hogs, and farmed. In 1955, they bought land and moved to the Carl Schurra house on Cottonwood Butte Road, so their children had easier access to get to school. Barbara was always so proud to say, “I had 4 children when the oldest was still 4yrs old”. They lived in the home until 2015 when her husband, Lee, passed away. Barbara was a stay-at-home Mom and raised 7 children. She was an amazing cook, a loving childcare provider, and had children’s friends and neighbors for dinner most of the time.

In 1979, Barbara took the position of St. Mary’s Catholic Church secretary, a position she loved for 25 yrs, retiring in 2004 when Monsignor Andy Schumacher retired. Barbara was one of the most prayerful people on earth; she prayed the rosary many times a day, attended daily Mass whenever possible, and found comfort and closeness to God through prayer. Barbara was active in St. Mary’s Catholic Church, Catholic Daughters (a member for over 70yrs), Christian Mothers, and the Happy Hour Club with her close friends, a club lasting over 50yrs.

Barbara always liked to tell people she had 7 children, 32 grandchildren, and 52 great-grandchildren for which she had the most unconditional love for all of them. At her passing, she had 4 more great-grandchildren and one great, great-grandchild on the way.

She greatly enjoyed pinochle card games and learned rummy card games from son-in-law Rick in the past year and enjoyed it. She was a spirited fan of the Gonzaga Bulldogs.

Barbara is survived by her children Jim (Sally), Gary (Lynn), Ron (Doris), Rose (Rick Harman), Ken (Doreen) Kevin (Kathy), Joe (Charlene). She was preceded in death by her parents Joe (1959) and Anna (1991), husband Lee (2015), sister Rose Ann (1953), brother Tony (2011), son-in-law Ed Forsmann (2014), grandchildren Jennifer (1995), Jacob (2004), and Jared (2020).

Due to the Covid pandemic, a celebration of Barbara’s amazing life will be held in a private family Mass at St. Mary’s Church in Cottonwood and burial at Cottonwood cemetery with her husband, Lee. Friends may view the funeral on-line at at 10a.m. rosary and 10:30a.m. funeral Mass. Blackmer Funeral Home is in charge of arrangements. Send condolences to the family to

In place of flowers, memorial donations can be made in Barbara’s name to Sisters of Life, 320 East 66th St, New York, NY 10065, St. Mary’s Catholic Church, PO Box 425, Cottonwood, ID 83522, Monastery of St. Gertrude, 465 Keuterville Rd, Cottonwood, ID 83522.

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  • Joe & Kathy Kuther says:

    Our sincere sympathy to the whole Rehder Family you are all in our prayers and thoughts.

  • Ryan, Debie, Ry and Reed Mock (Forsmann) says:

    Dad always lit up when you would say Aunt Barbara and Uncle Lee’s name. He’d share stories and memories. May they rest peacefully together in the heavens and knowing she had an amazing life full of love! ❤️ Send prayers to the Rehder family as they gather together to celebrate the amazing person, Aunt Barbara.

  • Ralph and Debbie Stubbers says:

    Condolences to the entire Rehder family. Mya your mother Rest In Peace.

  • Fr Bruce Wren says:

    My prayers and thoughts are with you for your amazing Mom and Grandma. She was my favorite “second mother!” I am sure she is now enjoying her new life in heaven.

  • Ron Wittman says:

    Jim, Sally and all the Rehder family. So sorry for the loss of your mother, grandmother. She sounds like she was an amazing lady. In knowing Jim, I know she had to have had the patience of a saint. JK. I know you all will have a huge hole in your hearts to fill for a long time coming. I think of my mom daily. God Bless you all and may he help heal the hurt that you all must be feeling.

  • Jack and Haley Secrest says:

    To All the Rehder Family-
    We are thinking of you and hoping you have wonderful memories to comfort you. Barbara was an amazing person and gave so much to our community.
    Haley and Jack Secrest

  • JUNE DAVIES says:

    A long life well lived! knowing members of her family, let’s me know how special of person Barbara was. So sorry for the loss of you mom (especially
    Ken, Doreen, and Kevin), but so happy that you have her in heaven to guide you.

  • Bob and Mary Mangold says:

    Dear Jim, Sally, and Rehder family:

    Bob and I want to take this opportunity to send our warmest and most loving condolences for your loss of Barbara Rehder recently. Knowing you, Jim, as we have over the years, with deepest respect and appreciation for your thoughtful diplomacy and “get er done” approach to all things, I’m sure your Mother was among the most extra-ordinary people in our local communities and lovingly passed her lessons to her children as well. We send the Rehder family a very warm embrace in the aftermath of your loss and know that while Barbara is cherished in memory and remembered in prayers that her legacy will live on into eternity. Rest in Peace Barbara M. Rehder.

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